Herpesviruses appear to peacefully coexist with their natural hosts, with infection typically manifested as a benign, but lifelong process. However, coexistence depends on active resistance by innate and specific immune defenses as revealed in the striking virulence of herpesviruses when immunity fails. This pattern of infection is characteristic of a viral pathogen, such as cytomegalovirus, that has evolved efficient strategies targeted at host defense systems. Targeting members of the tumor necrosis factor (TNF)/lymphotoxin (LT) superfamily of cytokines is a strategy found in all herpesviruses, which suggests the existence of an intimate evolutionary link in their host–parasite relationship. Here we examine some of the strategies used by herpesvirus that target members of the TNF superfamily and discuss a recent study that revealed a novel mechanism that links LT-related ligands and interferons (IFN) to the establishment of coexistence between herpesvirus and its host cell.